POETRY OF FIVE XII

Time for some poetic callistenics. Trying to get my “head right”.

34 constant rare snail magpie witch

Rare is the day that doesn’t bring some joy

Doesn’t take the spell of a witch to employ

Words of doom and gloom are the chattering of a magpie

Periods of joy make me high

Don’t move like a snail when joy is around

Constant attention to life makes happiness abound

35 deluxe swallow nature camp brother

You needn’t swallow a mediocre life

Don’t wait, there is no afterlife

Get out in nature, it’s really the place

For all mankind, it’s really the birthplace

Make a camp, then just unwind

Help your brother, it’s just being kind

To be in nature just feels deluxe

Take it slow, set up two hammocks

36 sand exuberant grace lyric exposition

To live an exuberant life is the goal

Live it with grace, don’t sell your soul

The lyric of life is the exposition of joy

Do not allow naysayers to annoy

Time is signified by grains of sand

Don’t spend your life in a one-man band

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57 WINDOW

Out the window, a dreary day

No drugs to make the blues go away

Just experiencing it is the meaning of life

Let it in, open the door

Get in the flow, you won’t need more

Allow your passion to run free

Being open to all around is the key

Rest your doubts, let it be

58 LIFE

Take me back to the passions of my youth

Live the real life, that is the truth

Like the song “Nothing Else Matters”

Life is not for the actors

Let it flow, bask in the glow

To do less makes existence bareness

Live life with awareness

59 MATE

Where are you? My soul mate

Searching for you, the time is late

I long for the serenity of your touch

For you to appear is not asking for much

I know you are lonely too

When we meet, will no longer be blue

Our friendship will marvel many

Living our life, we will be free

CREATIVITY

When I was married, my wife was an artist working primarily in oils. Sometimes she wouldn’t paint for days. When I would ask her about it, she would say she wasn’t feeling it or wasn’t feeling creative. I never disagreed with her, but silently I didn’t really understand this thought process. Since I started writing poetry, which many consider an art form, I now understand what she was talking about. There are days I’m not “feeling it”. I was basically not able to write during the month of October. Not sure why, nothing bad happened to divert my thought process, just couldn’t. This is often referred to as “writer’s block”. I’m going to go back to my roots and see if I can force start the process. I miss reading the strange things that spring from my brain.

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55 RISK

To live life fully, we must take a risk

We are adults now, it’s a calculated risk

We can’t pull the covers over our head

Some think we might as well be dead

Our life is not anyone’s clone

Neither is it meant to be spent alone

Embrace life’s connection

It can make existence perfection

56 DAY

The sky is gray

It’s a melancholy day

I need something to make the blues go away

The world is full of places to play

A positive attitude is the price we pay

The work is constant, we must not stray

To reach the goal, effort can’t be halfway

You owe it to the cosmos, time to repay

You know you must, do it today

Alternatives are many, do it anyway

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First some thoughts: Each poem is an entity onto itself. Finishing a poem gives me a sense of accomplishment greater than the work involved. I wonder at what I have created. Different parts of our brain can only be accessed by different activities. Everyone should try new ways of accessing or expressing different parts of their brain.

53 ENIGMA

People think I am an enigma

My philosophy is not exactly Buddha

But neither is it dogma

At all costs, I avoid drama

Trying not to invoke the wrath of Karma

For recreation, I dance the rumba

I never mastered the salsa

To have fun in life is my agenda

Keeping my mind going, wards off dementia

When I get a new car, it will be magenta

Maybe, as people think, I am an enigma

54 FRIENDSHIP

Friendship is about spending time together

We don’t care about the weather

Friendship is about having their back

When life launches another attack

Friendship is about extending respect

Even when our views don’t intersect

Friendship is about sharing laughter

When life is bad or good, it follows after

Friendship is about separate existence

Our time together creates abundance

Friendship is about friendship

WHY I WRITE

There is an astronomical amount of writing churned out each day. The reasons for this are many. It could be for profit, spread political views, personal ego, spreading philosophical ideas, announcing scientific or other discoveries and the list goes on. Like many writers, I also have a little ego. I like seeing my creations in print, like many artists want people to see their works. I don’t have many people reading my work, but the mere fact there are more than a year ago feeds me a little. I also enjoy the challenge of writing something that makes sense, even if only to me. News Flash: I am human.

I write to solidify and structure ideas. It is an efficiency tool. It helps me move on. It prepares me for the next step in life. Thinking through ideas is like bees on a cluster of enticing flowers. You see them buzzing around, but the thought that the swarm of bees is constantly changing doesn’t occur. Bees come and bees go. The swarm is thought of as a single object, which it’s not. The same holds true when trying to think about a subject that may have some complexity to it. Little ideas come and they go. Some of them may have been a good contribution to the solution, but one can only hold so many ideas captive at one time. We think we have control over this, but it is extremely limited. I have read the human mind has 50,000 random thoughts a day. They are flying around like ping pong balls in a lottery drum. Writing down ideas “freezes” them and makes them a permanent part of the concept you are trying to evolve. New ideas can be added to the mix and the totality can be evaluated to see if it makes sense. Incongruent ideas can be discarded. This little essay is self-describing. All of these thoughts didn’t come at once. I put a seed down on paper and the concept grows over time. It may be 20 minutes or two days. It doesn’t matter.

Another thing about writing: it frees me from having to retain things. If I know it’s written down somewhere, I no longer have to worry about remembering it. Writing is a destresser. Writing creates freedom. Writing communicates my thoughts to others. Another thing about writing: recently I started writing poetry. It accesses parts of my brain I didn’t have access to before. When I read some of the things I have written, I am in wonder, not because I believe it is great but because I almost don’t recognize myself in it. With some of my poetry, I can point to specific triggering events. I believe it is changing me and the direction I am taking makes me feel better about myself. There is much writing about self-improvement and one of the things mentioned often is keeping a journal. My writing, both essays and poetry, is my form of journaling. I really intend to keep writing for a long time.

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51 PLAY

When all is said and done

Life should be filled with fun

Save serious thought for another day

Let’s go out and play?

Let’s unleash another day

We can dance the night away

Perpetuate the feeling of mirth

The dance of life, here on earth

Many opportunities for today

Can you come out and play?

52 TODAY

Today is a journey into the unknown

One thing is sure, this day isn’t a clone

Life is experience waiting to happen

Sit not on the bench, take action

The future is not cast in stone

Have something to write on your tombstone

Live life as you want it to be

Being proactive with life is the key

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49 COMMITMENT

The independence of partners is equal

The facets of the bond are ample

The respect is reciprocal

The commitment is not casual

Truth and honesty are crucial

The guide is to be faithful

To do otherwise would be unbearable

The serenity of love is blissful

50 BODY

I filled my body with today’s first meal

It made life seem real

I filled my body with happiness

It dissolved my feelings of aimless

I filled my body with sadness

The sun came and lifted the darkness

I filled my body with wonder

An open mind and body is the answer

I filled my body with curiosity

I became more worldly

I filled my body with gratitude

It vastly improved my mood

My body was filled with love

ONLINE DATING MUSINGS

I haven’t posted an essay on anything in awhile. I wrote one yesterday and decided to post. I hope you find this instructive.

First, some perspective. I am 72 years old, divorced twice with the most recent filed in August of 2012. The marriages lasted a total of 39 years.

Online dating is a comparatively new experience to society in general when compared to more traditional forms of meeting someone. For me, it is even newer. While I’ve been on the sidelines observing for several years, I have only been really in it for a year. I have no real way of knowing if my experiences are average or normal. I’m a little bit of a romantic and don’t really like what’s required to take an initial view on a website to a relationship with a little history and on a normal trajectory. I sometimes feel like I am both interviewing for a job and interviewing a person for a job in my company. Other times, I feel like I am shopping for a new TV, comparing features.

One of the things online dating requires you to do to a greater extent than out there in the normal world is decide what your criteria is for that special someone. Once that has been done, most of it should be ignored. More than a list, personality types and what goes together well are the determining factor. This can only be determined through trial and error or success.

You can’t actually build a long-term relationship based solely on chemistry. I read a study on chemistry stating chemistry reliably only lasts 24 months, then it’s gone. From the beginning, the potential as a friend must be evaluated. You don’t need to date a clone of yourself, but you do need to be compatible in areas important to you.

I think we delude ourselves into thinking we can tell if someone has real potential just by what you read. By my count, I’ve dated eight different women. The two best experiences were with people who I wouldn’t have predicted. One was one I contacted on a day I felt a little down and clicked on her profile on a whim. The other was a woman who contacted me, who I wouldn’t have picked from her profile, but I thought: why not? My point here is you never know where a connection will be. Two woman who looked very good on paper, and I wanted to make it work, just couldn’t get off the ground. Partly because my inner self “knew”, I probably wasn’t my most interesting self. In an interaction, things are often reflective of the least interested person.

There’s no shortage of people that will tell you everyone is different. Of course, I’ve always known that, but it has never been more apparent since I started trying to get into someone’s head to see if there is long term potential. Nobody is a perfect match and the question becomes how much dissonance is acceptable? What and how many issues can you dance around and still have a good relationship? To do this one must spend some time evaluating your own core values and non-negotiables.

One of the problems with dating in general and specifically online dating is the current covid19 pandemic. I read a little about how to proceed. The literature emphasized getting to know the person more before the initial meeting in person. More emails, telephone calls, Zoom dates, etc. I tried this with one person. We sent a blizzard of emails, had several telephone chats. It was like we were having a little contest to see who could pile up the most dirty laundry so there would be no surprises when we met. I view telephone calls and Zoom dates as focused conversations in which each party tries to keep the conversation going without offending the other. Emails give you too much time to think before hitting send. I include most first dates in this category. Years ago, I read some dating advice stating it takes three dates to evaluate the potential of a person. My experience holds this to be a reasonable rule of thumb. Things that never come up in emails and focused conversations can be like touching an electric fence in the context of an actual, in person date. There is no substitute for being in the same room with the person. That’s the covid19 paradox. One of our jobs as an adult is to determine which risks are worth taking. After a few initial communications, an in-person meet is a risk that must be taken to further the process.

Having a pen pal, in lieu of an in-person relationship, can be fun, but not very fulfilling. Human contact is a basic human need, just as food and shelter are basic. Yes, you can get by without it, but at what cost? The human mind is great at rationalizing reality, but we are doing ourselves a disservice in the long run without a partner. I know this makes it sound a little like a medicine to be taken. There is an element of truth to that, but it is our responsibility to make it taste as good as possible. This is the one medicine whose efficacy is based on taste.

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POEM 46 HAPPY PLACE

People talk of going to their happy place

Why? When all of life is a happy place

We’re always searching on the other side

When what we want is contained inside

Forget your cares and let life flow

Be inspired and bask in its glow

Declutter your life, you will find peace

The quality of life will show a great increase

Serenity is within your command

To reach it is like a dreamland

 

47 ON POETRY 

Some are painful to squeeze out

Some take on a life of their own

Some scream to be read

Some write themselves

Some are contorted

Some are surprising

Some are masterful

Some are profound

Some are beautiful

Some are amateur

Some are arcane

Some are weird

Some are silly

Some are sad

Some just are

48 MOOD JOURNEY

An intimate dance with your mind

It’s a journey that can never be timed

The product of a particular mood

Dark thoughts seldom intrude

A time of bliss and solitude

It fills our life with gratitude

It helps us lead a life that is kind

With the universe, we are entwined